So reminiscent of the final, sad exhale of my last marriage. It set the stage for one of the loveliest conversations we'd ever had. Our marriage did not fail - it was completed.
I can relate you your poem. I too have removed the ring and the tolerance that comes after is sometimes for me to continue. Thank you for writing this. I must say it did hit a number of emotions.
A beautiful, touching poem. Thank you for sharing it. Although I haven't experienced a break up for many years now, I still remember that wildness of feeling, teetering on the edge between familiarity and the unknown.
I’ve never had a marriage dissolve but definitely had a relationship dissolve into obliteration. This brought up so many feelings inside me, I’m left in contemplation.
This is painstakingly beautiful, adding attention to emotions that are usually ignored after a dissolve of a marriage. Thank you for writing this.
As someone who will have their 20th anniversary this fall, I so appreciate your poetry. You capture moments in a long-term relationship so well. When I read these poems, I feel like they are lived experiences.
This Post popped up before, I started to read, but couldn't / wouldn't get in to it. A gentle day here though and it just popped up again. This time I read all the way through and it has stayed with me since.
Seemingly simple lines such as
'you asked, “What do I want?”
and I was rendered mute'
fill the room I'm sat quietly in.
I should really just say 'thank you for sharing' but it doesn't seem quite right.
So often, the ending is expected to come with heat. It rarely does, i think. It comes quietly, like a thousand paper cuts, as they say. I like "It was completed."
Also, your title reminds me so much of East Coast E by Matt Pond. It's one of my favorite feel good songs.
Apologies for the interruption, but whilst Matt Pond is new to me, thank you for the share. Anyway, butting out again now, and back to reading Substack
Part of the challenge of writing The Familiarity is I have to tell the narrative arc of falling in love, of marriage, children, of despair and grief, and redemption. I'm currently in the the throes of writing about the relationship where it wasn't working and need to honor that. I am hoping to take the reader on this journey - and yes, it is sad and raw. I do hope I do it all justice (my poor wife gets to read all of this too - she's a saint!)
So reminiscent of the final, sad exhale of my last marriage. It set the stage for one of the loveliest conversations we'd ever had. Our marriage did not fail - it was completed.
What a beautiful sentiment. It was completed.
I can relate you your poem. I too have removed the ring and the tolerance that comes after is sometimes for me to continue. Thank you for writing this. I must say it did hit a number of emotions.
I am glad my words moved you.
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A beautiful, touching poem. Thank you for sharing it. Although I haven't experienced a break up for many years now, I still remember that wildness of feeling, teetering on the edge between familiarity and the unknown.
I’ve never had a marriage dissolve but definitely had a relationship dissolve into obliteration. This brought up so many feelings inside me, I’m left in contemplation.
This is painstakingly beautiful, adding attention to emotions that are usually ignored after a dissolve of a marriage. Thank you for writing this.
Very well written. The struggle, the unanswered questions. It's so raw and real. I like your writing.
As someone who will have their 20th anniversary this fall, I so appreciate your poetry. You capture moments in a long-term relationship so well. When I read these poems, I feel like they are lived experiences.
I appreciate your kind words too.
This Post popped up before, I started to read, but couldn't / wouldn't get in to it. A gentle day here though and it just popped up again. This time I read all the way through and it has stayed with me since.
Seemingly simple lines such as
'you asked, “What do I want?”
and I was rendered mute'
fill the room I'm sat quietly in.
I should really just say 'thank you for sharing' but it doesn't seem quite right.
But thank you for sharing all the same.
Thank you works. There's nothing wrong with appreciating this poem, it's not sad to me. It's part of life, and happy it reached you again and again!
If not pleased, I am at least very glad to read that it's not sad to you, or no longer is, as that makes it all the more hopeful for the rest of us.
PS
Thank you :)
So often, the ending is expected to come with heat. It rarely does, i think. It comes quietly, like a thousand paper cuts, as they say. I like "It was completed."
Also, your title reminds me so much of East Coast E by Matt Pond. It's one of my favorite feel good songs.
Off to check out that song right now!
Apologies for the interruption, but whilst Matt Pond is new to me, thank you for the share. Anyway, butting out again now, and back to reading Substack
Can’t wait to read more
This is sad and raw I hope I never reach this point
Part of the challenge of writing The Familiarity is I have to tell the narrative arc of falling in love, of marriage, children, of despair and grief, and redemption. I'm currently in the the throes of writing about the relationship where it wasn't working and need to honor that. I am hoping to take the reader on this journey - and yes, it is sad and raw. I do hope I do it all justice (my poor wife gets to read all of this too - she's a saint!)
And then there’s this
It’s really good and I bet reading it is hard for your sweet wife
Beutiful, so raw. "In the end, we tolerate what we both have become."
I appreciate you and the time you take to reply to my words.
GL Allum has such an ear to the rhythms of love and when it grows cold.
This moved me, what a raw, beautiful write. Love it!