This poem resonated with me as a mother, with a daughter. My first husband, her father, wanted the role of the "good parent". That left me with being "the bad mother". A very painful path, because I identified with that role. My second husband planted the idea that "you cannot succeed as a parent". This helped a bit. Yet, it took decades before the relationship between my daughter and me healed. I am 87, she almost 60. The last 6-7 years in particular we have enjoyed a deep and loving relationship. We have both learned a lot. And we were both willing to change. This is how I personally perceive parenthood today. What you refer to as "curse in bloodlines" might be the same as what is known as "ancestral trauma". It is part of the "setting" that the incoming soul encounters. As parents we can only do our very best to parent our child. We love and we guide. The rest is co-creation. When we fall and fail, that is part of it. We are not infallible. We did only sign up for doing our best and be willing to change and grow (both parents AND child). When we fall short of our ideals (and we will at times) we FORGIVE. When our child grows up, I believe it is also valuable to let them teach us. It's a 2-way communication. The parent doesn't always know best. I see everyone as a soul, and each soul has its own wisdom. Ultimately, when this lifetime is over, what counts I think is not how "successful" it was but how much we were able to honour our deepest inner truth which is Love. Maria
And….”I often remark, as if I had mastered the art,
that parenting is one long sigh.
From the cradle to the grave,
we are in one silent goodbye.” This is such a beautiful work!!! All of the nuance within it. Thank you so VERY much for writing and for sharing it here! I hope you might read a few of mine one day as well. 😊Judi
This poem resonated with me as a mother, with a daughter. My first husband, her father, wanted the role of the "good parent". That left me with being "the bad mother". A very painful path, because I identified with that role. My second husband planted the idea that "you cannot succeed as a parent". This helped a bit. Yet, it took decades before the relationship between my daughter and me healed. I am 87, she almost 60. The last 6-7 years in particular we have enjoyed a deep and loving relationship. We have both learned a lot. And we were both willing to change. This is how I personally perceive parenthood today. What you refer to as "curse in bloodlines" might be the same as what is known as "ancestral trauma". It is part of the "setting" that the incoming soul encounters. As parents we can only do our very best to parent our child. We love and we guide. The rest is co-creation. When we fall and fail, that is part of it. We are not infallible. We did only sign up for doing our best and be willing to change and grow (both parents AND child). When we fall short of our ideals (and we will at times) we FORGIVE. When our child grows up, I believe it is also valuable to let them teach us. It's a 2-way communication. The parent doesn't always know best. I see everyone as a soul, and each soul has its own wisdom. Ultimately, when this lifetime is over, what counts I think is not how "successful" it was but how much we were able to honour our deepest inner truth which is Love. Maria
And….”I often remark, as if I had mastered the art,
that parenting is one long sigh.
From the cradle to the grave,
we are in one silent goodbye.” This is such a beautiful work!!! All of the nuance within it. Thank you so VERY much for writing and for sharing it here! I hope you might read a few of mine one day as well. 😊Judi
“Do memories travel in blood?” I love this line and also…..